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Conversation through WhatsApp messages, January 16th, 2025

Had an abortion a while ago. The gynaec put in clear words on the primary report “unmarried”. Which meant extra money for the entire thing.

Okay. So, I don’t think the behaviour was too odd or anything.

Since, this place is full of students. I am guessing it must not be new to her. And also because they were prepared with prices and processes and everything.

I noticed a lot later that at some point “unmarried” was written on my report. And this is demeaning in itself. Like what does it matter?

My partner was there with me, making it easier for me. Even if he wasn’t, what gives them the right to do that?

If a person wants an abortion, it should be just about the person and not about their partner. Let alone marital status.

The report went through multiple hands. X-rays. And medicine shops. And the nurses. And whatnot.

Someone was constantly coming (all female nurses) to check how far the medicine had worked before I was taken to the OT or whatever. I am not sure what it is called. It was obviously not an operation per se.

This portion I believe could have been handled better. Initially, while putting in meds they let me know a few things. After that, they were not very asking and warning about this. And I was conscious. And this was also done after the procedure was done.

A lot of fingers were involved. This portion was shared. For the most part, other people were not allowed inside.

The not asking seemed to be coming from a place of extreme comfort with their work and human anatomy, which is good. But I don’t know, don’t they have to deal with a lot of people. With different situations. So, this could be an issue. A little bit of asking (for the sake of formality) should be the standard practice.

And of course, why should one pay more if they are unmarried?!

Also, one crucial information is that I went through a common link.

There’s this couple who have a pharmacy and close tie-up with the hospital. They are our friends. So, there’s a chance that might have also affected the behaviour.

I am imagining someone going there directly. And without sindur and stuff. Speaking in a different language.

Do they ask “are you married?”

What an unnecessary question.

When I was younger and had to go to gynaecologists because of extreme menstrual cramps, these marriage related conversations also popped.

As in it will get better if I have a kid, kinda thing. I don’t remember too many details, related to this though.